My wife and I were watching Steve Harvey yesterday, and they had a battle of the sexes, round table debate between men and women both married and single. They debated on a bevy of topics but the one that intrigued my wife and I most was: Should women take their husband’s last name? I may be in the minority here but I must admit I wasn’t surprised. Statistical data supports the opinion that women want to keep their name because they don’t want to lose their independence.
Biblically, God forewarns us of this in 1 John 2:15 when it says ‘Love not the world nor the things of this world. For all that is of this world is the lust of the flesh the lust of the eyes and the pride of life.’ The “world” in Greek translates to the word cosmo; where we get Cosmopolitan; which means like the magazine: society’s system, or things trendy or faddish.
Lately society and government have been pushing new agendas at the speed of light, and this is no exception. However, verse 17 states ‘And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever’. We must be mindful in our pursuit of new and improved, old and faithful worked for a number of years. It may not be fashionable or popular to say these days, but as a man who ministers to men, I can attest that when a woman does not accept a man’s name he feels dejected and disrespected. A common misnomer is that men need to be loved by their wives, however god designed it so that women understood he needs your respect first and foremost.
Regardless of the trick the enemy is trying to perpetrate. A man does not want to assert any dominance or make the woman his wife his possession, but a godly man is only trying instinctively to fulfill God’s order given by the Apostle Paul’s to the Ephesians in the 5th Chapter starting at verse 31 “And this is the reason a man leaves his father and his mother and is united with his wife; the two come together as one flesh.”[a] 32 There is a great mystery reflected in this Scripture, and I say that it has to do with the marriage of the Anointed One and the church. 33 Nevertheless, each husband is to love and protect his own wife as if she were his very heart, and each wife is to respect her own husband.’
God tells husbands the standard for loving their wives in quantifiable terms in Ephesians 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. A godly husband gives his wife him. This should clear up any unknowing or unaccepting of the roles in marriage. Regardless of richer or poorer, sickness, and health, till death do you part, God tells wives to respect your husbands. Why respect and not love, you ask? It’s simple, because it is instinctive and genetic for woman to love. They are pre-disposed to being the nurturer, affectionate, and the romantic of the two. God knew this in his infinite wisdom, that’s why he has to give the command to wives respect, because this doesn’t come as instinctual as the other attributes. And by not taking his name is that respectful?
I thank you Lord for edification, and dissemination of your word In Jesus’ Name Amen.
Marriage: Know Your Role – Spiritual Commentary
My wife and I were watching Steve Harvey yesterday, and they had a battle of the sexes, round table debate between men and women both married and single. They debated on a bevy of topics but the one that intrigued my wife and I most was: Should women take their husband’s last name? I may be in the minority here but I must admit I wasn’t surprised. Statistical data supports the opinion that women want to keep their name because they don’t want to lose their independence.
Biblically, God forewarns us of this in 1 John 2:15 when it says ‘Love not the world nor the things of this world. For all that is of this world is the lust of the flesh the lust of the eyes and the pride of life.’ The “world” in Greek translates to the word cosmo; where we get Cosmopolitan; which means like the magazine: society’s system, or things trendy or faddish.
Lately society and government have been pushing new agendas at the speed of light, and this is no exception. However, verse 17 states ‘And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever’. We must be mindful in our pursuit of new and improved, old and faithful worked for a number of years. It may not be fashionable or popular to say these days, but as a man who ministers to men, I can attest that when a woman does not accept a man’s name he feels dejected and disrespected. A common misnomer is that men need to be loved by their wives, however god designed it so that women understood he needs your respect first and foremost.
Regardless of the trick the enemy is trying to perpetrate. A man does not want to assert any dominance or make the woman his wife his possession, but a godly man is only trying instinctively to fulfill God’s order given by the Apostle Paul’s to the Ephesians in the 5th Chapter starting at verse 31 “And this is the reason a man leaves his father and his mother and is united with his wife; the two come together as one flesh.”[a] 32 There is a great mystery reflected in this Scripture, and I say that it has to do with the marriage of the Anointed One and the church. 33 Nevertheless, each husband is to love and protect his own wife as if she were his very heart, and each wife is to respect her own husband.’
God tells husbands the standard for loving their wives in quantifiable terms in Ephesians 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. A godly husband gives his wife him. This should clear up any unknowing or unaccepting of the roles in marriage. Regardless of richer or poorer, sickness, and health, till death do you part, God tells wives to respect your husbands. Why respect and not love, you ask? It’s simple, because it is instinctive and genetic for woman to love. They are pre-disposed to being the nurturer, affectionate, and the romantic of the two. God knew this in his infinite wisdom, that’s why he has to give the command to wives respect, because this doesn’t come as instinctual as the other attributes. And by not taking his name is that respectful?
I thank you Lord for edification, and dissemination of your word In Jesus’ Name Amen.
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