By Misty Beck

In Mid-July Playboy Playmate of 2015 Dani Mather’s posted a picture on social media body shaming a woman in the locker room at her gym. There are several things wrong with this story. I’ll start with Ms. Mather’s who indeed is the culprit in this unfortunate incident. I actually knew of Dani before her social media fall from grace. I Listen to KLOS on occasion while commuting to work in the morning. It’s the Heidi and Frank Show. She use to work for the station.

I believe she had a few duties and or gigs, but the one I enjoyed was called put your man where your mouth is. Frank has people email their story to the show. Each person who submits to this is confident that her man would never cheat not even with a “Playmate of The Year”. Dani would go out as decoy to the gym or even place of business of the unsuspecting spouse or boyfriend and flirt with him and give her number which is a burn phone owned by the station. Every Thursday they would have the woman on the phone line as they checked the voice and text messages to see if Dani was a hit or miss. Voila…every single time I listened the man would take the bait and be asking Dani out.

All hell would break loose and then they call the poor sucker and Dani asked him questions like “is he married?” and guess what even when they were they would say no. Soon after the wife would be allowed to chime in and surely you can imagine how that went. I was entertained and while listening over the course of several months I became fond of Ms. Mather’s funny, kind, and sweet disposition. Once she posted that picture on social media for all to see she lost her gig at the station. Why would Dani, who is beautiful, has tons of followers and fans telling her how gorgeous she is be so cruel and have this lapse in judgment and morals? Only she knows why that seemed like a funny or good idea.

Once she realized the backlash she immediately posted an apology video and begged her fans for forgiveness. Well, folks she quickly learned that social media can be very unforgiving. I started reading comments on her social media accounts where a firestorm of hate spewed from hundreds of keyboards, Ipads, laptops, and phones. It was brutal. Listen she was flat out wrong and absent minded to think that her adoring followers would find humor in her public humiliation of another person. Some of the comments called her a disgusting human being, evil bitch, hateful, scumbag, slut, trash, cunt, and any and all types of worthless whore.

I have to admit I had a fleeting desire to join in on the witch hunt. I thought about commenting on her apology video and writing something like “I thought you were sweet, nice, and beautiful inside and out, but now I can see you are a nasty person and your soul is dark and twisted”. Then it hit me… good old reality check. Who am I to berate this woman publicly whom I don’t know? I know two things, I liked her on the radio show and she just made the news for doing something really foul and unfortunate.

Well, here’s the deal the internet and social media are now playgrounds for our children, the place we meet up with friends, and where we do most of our shopping among other things. I, like most love the web. I use it often and plentiful in all its horrific glory. I say that because you and I know that it’s a place where a lot of horrible things take place. Terrorist networks, pedophiles, and just folks saying and doing cruel things to one another. Too many young and old have taken their lives because of the cruelness of others cyber bullying them until they can’t take it anymore and end their precious lives.

Dani Mather’s should be ashamed of herself and also should and could face charges for her actions that day. There is a criminal investigation open and apparently the LAPD is waiting for the victim to come forward before filing formal charges. That’s what should happen because what she did was horrible, but also against the law. If that were a man filming or photographing a woman in any place without her knowledge off to jail he’d go.

Since I’m not her judge, jury, and executioner I don’t feel a right to take on that roll. I think it’s great to have an opinion and share your thoughts with one another on open forums like social media, however I’m not in the business of cyber hate. Just because she showed her ugly side to the world shouldn’t make everyone turn just as ugly and spew hateful comments on every profile and pic she has on the internet.

I know for a fact that most of us have said or done something we regret, something we can’t take back. We are all human and we will and do make mistakes. The fact of the matter is that when you are a public figure which we all have become now with social media you are opening yourself up to ridicule and judgement. We should try to carry ourselves in a way that is our true self. If we think posting a pic of someone who’s less attractive or less fortunate and making a joke is our true self, then be ready for disgrace and public bashing.

I can’t stand a hypocrite, so let me clarify what I’m trying to convey by writing this. I am simply sharing my opinion that’s what is great about this fine country of ours. However, my views and thoughts may seem judgmental of Ms. Mather’s or even the people who participated in her public bashing. I am simply trying to express to anyone who can relate that cyber bulling, and hate doesn’t look good on Ms. Mather’s or anyone else either.

Try to love the life you live and be a positive force that’s all. There’s enough negative crap in this world. When you see something ugly like the actions of Dani Mather’s. Try to do the opposite and pick someone up. Maybe make breakfast for your honey and serve it to them in bed and let them know how much you appreciate them.

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