By Aida Mounkes

Lately, there have been a lot of questions about love. How do I know if the one I am dating is Mr./Mrs. Right? I have Mr./Mrs. Right how do I get him to propose? How do I tell the one that I really like that I want to go out? I am not a love expert. I have been in the retirement game so long I have a little different perspective. How much are you paying for the relationship?

Itemizing The Cost

I have suggested making a list of pros and cons before because it works for a lot of things. It is important to make a list of all thing that you like about the relationship and all the things that you don’t like. If you are in a relationship that is not balanced, you may need to consider how to balance that relationship. Almost like balancing a checkbook.

I would list if your boyfriend opens your car door for you on the pro side. If he makes you pay for dinner, a con. It all comes down to how much do you value yourself? Then he should contribute to the relationship a little more than that. The reverse is also true. If your girlfriend goes out with you but won’t listen to what you have to say during dinner and is always on the cell phone, that is a con. If your girlfriend either bought or made you a gift just because… Yep, you guess it PRO.

When you look at a relationship from the financial side, you may see it a little clearer. Then once you have itemized the issues you can start identifying value to them. If the Pros have a higher total than the Cons, you have your answer.

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